Surrogacy, Egg Donation, and Love & Fertility - A Valentine's Day Special Radio Show

Surrogacy, egg and sperm donation, as well as Adoption put a huge strain on a couple's marriage or partnership.  We all know this whether we acknowledge it or not.  Which is why I teamed up with Expert, Kristen Magnacca, for today's show.  She provides ALOT of great insight for couples who have no where else to go.  There are also issues of jealousy, guilt, sadness, loss, and vulnerability that many choose not to address.  In fact, she noted that couples need to start (together) with the five things to help you, as a couple, survive infertility.

They are as follows:

1.  Write down your dreams
2.  Write down your goals that point you toward those dreams
3.  Focus on your relationship at least once every day, along with focusing on yourself at least once a day
4. Remind each other daily how much love there is between you despite the difficulties you are both now facing
5  Remember your love story - we all have one!

Look to Kristen for further advice - I think, no, I KNOW, that you will not regret it.  I know that I didn't.

Friday Legal Updates™ - Abortion Foes & Egg Donation, NJ Gay Bill, & Prop. 8, Marriage & Infertility

First, let's start out with a moment of silence for all of the people of Haiti.  Please make donations via www.whitehouse.gov.

TGIF!  Now, let's start out with our updates:

1.New York - Abortion foes are challenging the payment of $10K to egg donors for use in research by the NY Stem Cell Board.  Interestingly enough, no donor has donated through this program.  The Board argues that the case lacks merit; however, the group believes that the offer of money for the donation of eggs exploits women.  What do you think?  The Board also argues as follows:

"There is no principled reason to distinguish between donation of oocytes for reproductive purposes and research purposes when determining the ethicality of reimbursement," the board wrote. "The risks associated with donating oocytes to stem cell research are no greater than those associated with reproductive donations. Moreover, donating oocytes to stem cell research arguably confers a greater benefit to society than does oocyte donation for private reproductive use."
The group, Rochester-based Feminists Choosing Life New York State, on the other hand think that
"It's going to entice young, economically vulnerable women -- single mothers, college students with loans, unemployed women, immigrants."
2. New Jersey - The State Senate has defeated a bill to legalize gay marriage in the state.  The vote was 20-14, and the new governor threatened to veto regardless.  At least New Jersey does offer civil unions for gay couples.  But, is that enough?
3. California - Should Infertility Be a Valid Reason for Marriage License Denial?  In the defense of Prop 8 by their lead counsel, Charles Cooper, they have argued as follows:

The AFP reports Charles Cooper, an attorney for Proposition 8’s campaign committee, Protect Marriage, has said during the trial “the purpose of the institution of marriage, the central purpose, is to promote procreation and to channel naturally procreative sexual activity between men and women in stable enduring unions.”

However, opponents of Prop 8 have a novel argument of their own:

Congratulations Mr. Cooper,  in the name of all that is holy, you’ve just stated the case for denying infertile men or women a marriage license. Looks like it’s time to shut down the uber Christian Snowflakes embryo adoption project.

Largely backed by evangelical Christianity, the California court case stands to have a marked impact on the fate of civil unions and gay marriage across the country. It’s already been made clear by Project Marriage supporters that they’re out to deny a portion of the citizenry their civil rights.

But sweeping statements like those above prove why this is a fight for more than the homosexual population. The CDC estimates more than seven million American women (between the ages of fifteen and forty-four) have fertility issues. That’s nearly twelve percent of the female population of childbearing age.

Currently, seven and a half percent of married women in that age range are infertile. And that’s just the women - studies posit forty percent of infertility issues in couples are from the male.

Ultimately, if they are going to use the inability to procreate as a reason gay marriage can’t be legalized, shouldn’t it apply to heterosexual couples?  This article addresses this argument quite nicely.  Well done. 
 

The Debate on Justice Sotomayor is About to Come to a Vote - How Does This Affect Us?

Hello, I am finally back after a long trip away in Europe. And, just in time since it appears the vote on Sotomayor will happen today.  I wanted to reiterate my previous post regarding how she may or may not vote in this area of Assisted ReproductionSee previous post here.  

In addition, since the California case involving Prop 8 may also come before her as a justice, her views will be very important to those this would affect.  On the other hand, it is clear from the news that the Department of Justice is trying very hard to get this out of the federal court system.  We will have to see where this goes in the coming months. 

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Justice Sotomayor - How Will Her Confirmation Affect Those Suffering from Infertility?

As was posted today on the AFA website, I wanted to provide you something interesting to read today on the Supreme Court Nominee:

While watching the confirmation hearings last week (yes, I am one of those dorky lawyers), I was listening for any cues regarding how she may address a case that involved fertility treatments, fertility coverage, pregnancy discrimination (including pre-pregnancy for IVF treatments) and, of course, a woman’s right to chose, including the right to privacy involving medical treatments.  Now, mind you, I understand regulation may be needed in some areas of this industry, but I also do not want to see the government restricting our ability to create a family, regardless of marital status, age, or sexual orientation.  Again, these are issues that must be determined between a physician and their patient when he or she is accessing the health risks for the woman carrying the children, as well as any harm that may come to the future children in terms of prenatal health. 

I did discover, despite her attempts otherwise, that she appeared to hold a liberal point of view in many ways, which despite my own leanings, is important when it comes to autonomy for those patients and those involved in this industry.  However, regardless of her political stance, what is important is that she applies the law neutrally with a perspective of her life experience.  I know that many do not agree with that statement, but we all must agree that it is not humanly possible to take one’s own life experiences out of the picture when making decisions.  What we do want is for judges to use that experience, while simultaneously utilizing an objective vision when making decisions that will affect us all, as well as future generations.

Of course, much of what we do and what our clients/patients deal with is family law.  Judge Sotomayor has little experience in that area due to her previous posts as a federal judge, as most Supreme Court judges.  Even the Supreme Court itself has little experience in that area.  The most notable family law case is the case of Troxel v. Granville in which the Supreme Court did strike down a trial court judge’s decision to allow grandparent visitation involving a completely fit mother.  They were concerned that the judge had used his personal experience in making the decision since he stated he truly enjoyed his time with his grandparents as a child.  But, as I stated above, personal experiences do shape our lives and how we shape our decisions; however, in this case, the Court did not state that the judge did anything wrong in doing so, it was merely that it was a case with a backdrop of a fit mother.  Different set of facts could have created a different ruling. 

Now, with that in mind, Justice Sotomayor is a woman – she has no children, and she has been battling diabetes since the age of 8.  Does that make her more sympathetic to our plight or not?  I am not certain, as we do not know why she does not have children or if it was a path she chose.  But, we do know that she knows what it is like to battle a disease that controls your life, which should be good for those of us in the community. 

Remarkably, after reviewing her previous decisions, I was unable to locate much information on how she would rule if any such case comes before her.  In fact, she has not dealt with stem cell research regulation of Assisted Reproductive Technologies, healthcare choices, or on-point abortion cases; however, there are a few notable cases that she has dealt with as a judge:

1.  Saks v. Franklin Covey Co (316 F.3d 337 (2d Cir. 2003)) – This is a bioethical issues case in which she joined a Second Circuit opinion rejecting a claim that exclusion from coverage of surgical impregnation procedures, including in vitro fertilization, violated Title VII and the “Pregnancy Discrimination” Act.  Note that this does not assume that she is against IVF, only that she did not judge that that particular case was within the parameters of the Pregnancy Discrimination Act, which is her duty as a judge – to interpret law, not make laws.  For changes like this to be made, we need to address our Congress to have them amend these laws as they currently stand. 

2.  Center for Reproductive Law and Policy v. Bush (304 F.3d 183 (2d Cir. 2002)) – Judge Sotomayor found that a “reproductive rights” group had standing to challenge the Mexico City Policy.  She concluded that the group had “competitive advocate standing,” on the grounds that the government’s allocation of a benefit “creates an unequal playing field” for organizations advocating their views in the public arena.  She agreed that the government had a rational basis for favoring “the anti-abortion position over the pro-choice position” with public funds.  Again, as the above case, since this case is not on point, we truly do not know how she would rule regarding the right to life, the right to abortion, status of embryos, etc.

Ultimately, based on her performance at the hearings and her record, and despite a few bumps in the road involving the case of the firefighters, it does appear that she will be confirmed prior to the start of the next Supreme Court session.  And, of course, I am truly excited, as a woman, as a lawyer, and as a member of the US Supreme Court Bar, that there is another woman on the bench.  Call me sexist, call me whatever you want, but we need diversity on the bench so that those who have never “walked in our shoes” can see the perspective, albeit objectively, when our cases come before them. 

Budgeting for Infertility - New Resource for Everyone

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