Donation of Embryos & the Complex Family Tree

Embryo donation & family trees- I found an interesting article today that I thought might provoke some thoughts in both the industry and by those considering this option.  I have included the family tree diagram, which was very interesting and provocative; however, at the same time I felt that shows how diverse families are and how these individuals came together to create several beautiful families - without the children losing their sense of identity.  Let me know your thoughts. 

"Last winter, McLaughlin and her husband, Pat, were given the twins' embryos from a couple in California who had successfully birthed a son. With two children already, their family was complete.

But the California couple never anticipated that four frozen embryos would remain — scant specks in glass pipettes, each about a hundred cells in all and visible only to a microscope.

The McLaughlins are among at least 260 families nationwide each year who successfully have babies after embryo donation, sometimes called embryo adoption.

In the process, the couple have plunged headlong into the dicey ethical, religious and medical debate over the creation and fate of frozen embryos.

It's a debate that Jen McLaughlin, who is Catholic, has tackled with total certainty, grounded in a belief that the embryos are moral equivalents of children.

.....So much so that McLaughlin and the donors are pushing the bounds of a simmering ethical debate on embryo donation even further by rethinking what "family" really means and just how far their children's genetic bonds should go.

Embryo donation sometimes is an anonymous process, with donors and recipients engaging in a cloaked transaction through fertility labs that severs the likelihood of a future child's linking to a genetic past.

But these two couples insisted on an open process so the genetically related children — even the children who still may be born from the two remaining frozen embryos — would stay connected. They felt their children had a right to know their genetic heritage, no matter if their full and half siblings are raised by different parents in different circumstances and most did not come from the same womb."


The story continues, "Social scientists also aren't sure what may come of this. While research suggests open adoption is healthy in traditional circumstances, there is no research on how embryo adopted children may fare in open arrangements. And some worry that parents are imposing sibling relationships on the children without first giving them a choice.

That concern is shared even by some conservative groups that encourage adopting embryos but condemn the technology that made them.

"My concern always in these cases is the adults who are creating all of these confusing relationships, and the way they do it fairly nonchalantly," said Barbara Quigley, executive director of the Center for Bioethics and Culture Missouri.

McLaughlin says it's all very simple when you look into the sleeping faces of her twins.

"People are going to look at their photos and agree this is the right thing to do," she said.

All the studies in the world also aren't going to change the embryo donor's convictions about open adoption and donation.

"I think that most people who are researchers have never been adopted," she said. "If they haven't had that experience, they couldn't possibly know what it was like."

So, with tiny baby steps, everyone is moving ahead in this most modern of families, linked genetically and contractually, potentially for a lifetime."

Anonymity - Egg Donors, Sperm Donors, Embryo Donors, & the Donor Conceived Children

Alot of conversations have been going on these days regarding anonymity in the field of third party reproduction, and I agree that something needs to be done in the US very soon.    In fact, the recent case of Doe v. XYZ Company (75 Mass.App.Ct.311) has increased that attention, as it involves a case of a woman who gave birth to twins after artificial insemiantion using donor sperm.  The Plaintiff, the mother of these two girls, is asking for both Donor #D237's identity from the sperm bank, as well as child support from the donor himself

For now, the Massachusetts Court of Appeals has  remanded the issue to the trial court but declared "such cases cry out for legislation defining rights of the participants."  Unfortunately, without any statute in place, the Court cannot compel the defendant to reveal the identity of the anonymous donor.  

As a side note, the Plaintiff has since placed the children in state Department of Children and Families - for reasons not made clear in the ruling. 

So, where does that leave us as a society?  Many other countries require that the egg or sperm donor's information be released to the child once they are 18 years of age; h0wever, many fear that this will cause the number of donors to diminish as they have done overseas.

My other thought is that these donor conceived children should have some rights in this matter at some point - but how should we as a society handle this?  Donation is a positive thing in many aspects, as these children would not be in existence without the donation.  How does a donor conceived child respond to that aspect?

On the other hand, if someone is donating their genetics to help someone have a child, why should they be burdened with the obligations of a parent?   And, why should people have to give up the right to have a child with the use of a donor just because some people do not agree with it?   Julie Shapiro attempted to tackle this issue several times in her blog.

Well, I am currently working to develop my actual opinion at this point, as I was once an egg donor for quite a few couples as a matter of fact (including married couples, gay couples and  a single woman).  Do I mind if the children want my information?  Not at all.  Do I want to pay child support?  Hell no!  I have my own children, who are legally, genetically and socially my children. 

On the other hand, I also have twin nephews who are my brother's children legally and socially, yet not biologically.  Should he pay for their support?  Yes, as he chose to bring these children into this world.  But should my donor conceived nephews have access to their donors' information in the future - I think so but intially on a limited basis.  Maybe there is a way that we can compromise for all parties, as these children that are donor conceived are certainly loved and wanted.  

If the states want to legislate, we need to move towards a system where the donors information is stored for medical purposes and for potential contact in the future if all parties agree.  Most egg donors in particular are open to having contact in the future; however, not without being contacted beforehand by me so they can access the situation at the time they are asked. 

In fact, my office now offers Information Storage, which will maintain the  files for a minimum of 21 years (or longer if requested by the Parties).  In reality, we have been offering that service for over a decade, as I have always felt compelled to ensure that this information is available to the children and/or their parents.  Maybe this is  a compromise that will allow donor conceived children to be born to those families who need to use a donor to have a family, while permitting these children access without obligating the donors legally into support or parenting. 

Let me know your thoughts, as I think that a continued discussion will help me develop my opinion, as well as help others with theirs.