Lies my mother told me blog...
I've been asked if I want a Jewish Egg Donor - the answer is "I don't care."
Technically, if you carry the baby the Rabbis consider it Jewish, but this really doesn't matter to me either.
The only thing that matters is that the baby is healthy. That said, I do have guilt about not carrying my genes forward. Does that sound weird? I think about my great grandparents who left Eastern Europe to come to America to make a better life for themselves and their families - for some odd reason (maybe odd) I feel like I am betraying them by not passing along their genetic material. I am also, ofcourse, mourning the loss of that genetic connection to a child - but that is less about the Jewish piece.
When I asked my RE about the Jewish Donor Egg agency in NYC that works with the young Israeli girls, he told me he had visited their office and that it reminded him of a "catfish farm" (he is from New Orleans ergo the catfish reference). This gruesome image was enough for me to drop the issue altogether.
Last week New York magazine ran an article entitled how ironic - or should I say, accurate!!!
http://liesmymothertoldme.blogspot.com/2007/04/does-egg-donor-need-to-be-jewish.html
